We all likely have role models who inspire us with their boldness. For me, they’re Michelle Obama and Kamala Harris. Obama is honest about who she is and the struggles that got her to where she is today. Harris is breaking barriers both in her role as vice president and in her modern family. Both women are unapologetic about who they are, and that’s inspiring to millions of people around the world.
What makes a leader bold? It’s pretty simple. Being authentic, vulnerable and confident.
Here’s how you can take one powerful step towards embodying each of these bold characteristics now.
1. Authenticity
Most of us are not taught to be who we are. Instead, we’re taught (whether intentionally or unintentionally), that our value is derived by comparing ourselves to others and that who we are usually isn’t enough. The education system doesn’t help, because it re-emphasizes that our worth is more about what we learn and the credentials we possess.
However, if you aim to align yourself with the pack in these ways, you won’t stand out. Being bold is about being different, and that means embracing and leading with your unique thoughts, ideas and perspective. Think of it this way: Musicians only become true musicians when they learn an instrument so well that they throw out the rules and create their own. It’s the same with leadership.
Take This Bold Step Now
The first step to owning who you are is knowing who you are—including what drives you and what you excel at. I call this your Zone of Genius. Rooted in the science of performance, your Zone of Genius is made up of your Genius (the type of thinking you’re best at) and your Purpose (the impact you want to have on the world). Knowing these key elements and integrating them into your work every day will not only help you show up authentically, it’ll bring you endless engagement and fulfillment.
Not sure what your Zone of Genius is? This quiz can help. And once you know it, embrace it, own it and use it to bring your unique approach to everything you do.
2. Vulnerability
Being vulnerable doesn’t come naturally to most of us. But when you do it, people will be magnetized to you. Why? Because deep down, we are all more similar than we realize and our greatest pains are often the glue to deep connection. When you share your thoughts, struggles and pain, you will inspire others to do the same, and that’s when connection happens.
Take This Bold Step Now
Next time you’re interacting with your colleagues, your peers or your manager, share something that feels vulnerable. Be open and honest about an issue that you’ve been struggling with, something that allows the other person to see you in a more intimate way. Perhaps it’s as simple as sharing a recent low-confidence moment (everyone has them!). Aim to share this with at least one or two people this week and see the impact. If it feels good and forges connection, do more.
3. Confidence
Everyone suffers from low confidence. In my work with hundreds of private clients, I’ve witnessed that there’s not a single person out there who doesn’t battle with their self-worth and value at least occasionally. Confidence, though, is a muscle—something you have to work on and build over time. Without conscious effort to build it, you’re at the mercy of your circumstances. Life goes well, and you’re fine, but if things go south, you struggle.
Building confidence isn’t easy, but the pay-off is that no matter what comes your way, your belief in yourself is unflappable. This inner confidence is magnetic, and it shows others (and yourself) that you are truly unstoppable.
Take This Bold Step Now
Next time you have a confidence dip, pay attention: What are you telling yourself? Are you berating yourself? Are you calling yourself names? If so, try to realize that this is just you talking to yourself, and that you have the power to reverse those messages. Change those negative thoughts into positive mantras, such as: “I am valuable no matter what happens” or “I am capable of creating the career I want.” Use this exercise anytime you find yourself in a low spot. Soon, you may realize that those low-confidence moments were simply all in your head, and you can experience a solid belief in yourself no matter what comes your way.
By embracing who you are, showing vulnerability and building confidence, there really isn’t anything that can stop you from becoming the leader you want to be.