I poll people regularly about how overwhelmed and distracted they feel. I simply ask them to rate, on a scale from one to 10, how overwhelmed they feel, and how distracted they feel.
The average answer to both questions is about eight out of 10.
As a rule, people are overwhelmed in the modern world.
Years ago I discovered a simple and very effective procedure for clearing your mind.
Here’s the method in a nutshell.
The clear mind procedure
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Take out a blank piece of paper and write the words “What’s on my mind?” at the top. Then write down everything that’s on your mind.
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Take out another piece of paper, turn it sideways, and create three columns. Label these three columns: “active concern,” “maybe later,” and “delete.” Sort all the items on the first piece of paper into the three columns on the second piece of paper.
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Delete all the items in the delete column. Tell each item, one by one, that you’re done with them, and that they should go away and never come back.
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Take the items from the “maybe later” column and put them on your “maybe later” list. (If you don’t keep a “maybe later” list, start one.)
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Take the items from the “active concern” column and put them into your planning system. (If you don’t have a planning system, then get one.)
This procedure might well have saved my life about 10 years ago. I was a mess. I was completely overwhelmed with an unfinished dissertation, social turmoil, two young children, and a struggling business at the time. I couldn’t think straight with everything on my mind.
Once I started using this procedure everything cleared up, even before I solved all my problems. And I’ve been running clear ever since.
Now, let me leave you with one last
thought.
“Everything” means everything
This process can work like a charm. But it takes a few tries to get everything out of your mind.
To help with that process, here are a few things you should include:
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unfinished tasks
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trips you want to take
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people you think you should do lunch with or touch base with
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skills you want to develop
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subjects you want to learn
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areas of your life in which you feel inadequate-physically, knowledge-wise, skill-wise
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regrets about your past choices
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daydreams about what you would do differently if you could re-wind the clock and start over again
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ways you feel trapped
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interpersonal conflict you’re involved with
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home repair issues
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home renovation ideas
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things you’re dissatisfied with and want to change
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goals other people want you to pursue
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worries about the economy
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worries about loved ones
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habits you want to establish or break (but have had little success with so far)
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and anything else you remember that has come to mind at some point over the last few days
All that stuff competes for your attention. And if you want a clear mind, you must deal with all of it.
Give it a try!
Go ahead. Give it a try.
And don’t be surprised if you get dozens (or even hundreds) of things off your mind.